Self Discovery | Why Are We Traveling?
It’s been over two years now since I quit my job. Many times, I was asked, ‘Why do you quit your job?’, ‘When will you come back?’, ‘Are you always going to live like this?’ The person who wants to explore himself embarks on a journey, or isolates himself from the world. I have tried to experience both of them considering today’s conditions. And now I think that as a person who has lived and experienced some cycles over and over again, I have a right to say some words. All travelers who are on their way ‘without a bucket list target’ are actually a kind of pilgrimage. They don’t ask these questions. They only evaluate what they see, experience, marinate with them and continue their way. Self discovery, self journey is essentially done through traveling. According to me there is no difference than seeking for the self in a monastic place. My opinion…
Because it is not destination actually, the journey itself is the subject… If you want to return to where you were before, always a U-turn is possible. What if you don’t want to? What if you find another way? Doesn’t it worth to put it aside for a while to find the answer?!
You Have Wings, But You Are Not Flying
When your life is definite; how it can make you surprises? When the streets you walk, the people you talk to, the food you eat; that is to say when every day in your annual calendar is definite? How can it be possible to develop and discover yourself as long as it is no longer necessary to investigate, to see, to try, to meet new things and people without knowing how long your life will last? Yes, you went to a school, you learned what you were taught, you saw the world through the perception shown to you, maybe you visited other places, you saw other lives, but did you discover yourself? Surely, it’s not gonna happen unless you go out your comfort zone.
If you don’t choose to trust people and you put yourself in those sheltered walls, you can’t see how beautiful the life is. While teaching a yoga class, in deep relaxation, right in the middle of Kabak Valley, while looking at the mountains, an image came to me: We climb a mountain until we reach a certain age, we are miserable until it gets off the slopes. Then we come to the top of the mountain, there are no more place to go. We spend all our time staying there until the end of our life. But flying doesn’t come to our mind. We’re actually flying creatures. But forgotten! Our wings are forgotten! Yes, the feeling of the breeze and the fall is strange and frightening in the first place. It’s not a bad feeling. Cause who is jumping knows that there are wings. You are opening and flapping the wings, which are difficult to open because they are not used for a long while, and you discover that you are flying for the first time. You’re floating in the air! You can fly! You’ve always been somewhere until now, and now you’re migrating. Without anyone’s help! This image came to my sight. I told my students to surrender to the flow. Remember you have wings, be aware of that.
Do The Job Making You Both Beneficial and Happy
Isn’t it time to question your preferences inside of your comfort zone? Are you sure you want to do this for the rest of your life? You cannot be sure of that, without seeing alternative lifestyles. Or how do you think whatever you do makes you happy without discovering yourself ?!
Yeah, I know it seems ridiculous from the place you sit. But how else can you change the system? How to move the pile of stones without playing the little stones at the bottom? You can’t do this alone. There must be examples like you and you. And don’t be afraid of being alone. This enlightenment has already begun. It’s time to create a new stream all together!
Each of us is born with different talents. Many of us, even without realizing these talents, are dying. What a pity! I’m talking about the talents those we cannot discover while at school, running around. We’re all unique. Each of us. Yeah, so you are. I am not talking to your ego when I am telling these words. Each of us is very special creatures and we need to see our potential. Or would there be a meaning of life? You just have to take a step to realize the meaning of your life. I’m not saying you to go alone to a cave, and for days looking for answers to this question. I’m offering an easier way, go out!
Everybody Should Go Traveling at Least Once in Their Lifetime
Now we live in a global world. It is possible to access any information, as long as you are in the right place or give enough time and effort. There’s nothing to fear. All you need is an intention! Visas, tickets, a place for a shelter…. They all can be solved. Take yourself with you first.
And when you’re on your way, you’ll notice, you’re not an alien. You’re a social entity that can communicate, and there are thousands like you. You can solve all your problems by just communicating. Life is too real to live on Facebook and Instagram.
Just listen to my words before you make a major decision about your life; Stop!
Stop and take a break. Just take a look at yourself, review yourself, discover your identity. Who are you?
Are you the one remaining from who lives on this social media world? Or are you more than that to be able to choose how your life needs to be shaped? Use your effort to think of it. Don’t worry, it’s not that complicated. Life is not as hard as you think.
Take a trip. It can be for a certain time frame. Maybe 3, maybe 6 months. Stop the life you know for a little while and go. Who knows what you’re gonna be like when you come back. As a person who solves his/her problems, who is self-confident and who makes choices now. At least, for sure. And if you can find out who you are at the end of this journey, amazing! Because you are not your titles imposed on you, the environmental conditions or a creation made by the capitalist system.
Just Learn to Stay at the Present Moment and Experience Freedom
If you ask the travelers, ‘What did traveling teach you?’, you probably get the answer from all of them: Staying at the moment! The travel you make, the culture of the place, the people you meet on the way … They keep you busy so that the what happened on the financial world or what is going on in the country, what is today, what time it is, what that important person doing now… You don’t care, you are living at the present moment, as a presence.
When the sun rises, you decide what you will do that day. There’s nothing that ties your feet, or makes you do anything. You’re the authority who decides what to eat, when to eat, where to go, who to go with, or not. If you know how much free you will feel, when you realize that many things you do autonomously are the things you can do with your own will.
The people you meet will blow your mind. You will find yourself by virtue of those unique people. Imagine you in this climate, in this geography, the ancestral culture, you grew up with tradition. The economy of the country, the level of welfare, the level of culture, the educational status of the family, the school you have studied … The people you’ll meet have been raised in completely different places. Think about the culture. Some of what you know, what you do not know, the rights or the wrongs, the conservatism… All may change. Isn’t everything temporary?
The stories you get on the road and the actions you take will change you. You will have a wider and more flexible perception of life. Imagine a life that you don’t have to do anything, I’m not saying dream about it. Because they’re not dreams. You can do it.
Imagine the freedom of staying at the moment. There are no things you need to finish, no people you need to call, no places to be. You’re all by yourself as you wanna be. You are free.
Everyone Lives For Himself
I struggled a lot until I made people to accept my way of life. I’m an explorer. I discover myself. And I want to create a new one to bear fruits. As a statistician, I also created benefits, to be honest. I was creating to capitalism, but I was creating it. Was I happy? The answer to this question is certain.
I have chosen a path and I always have a journey to learn on this path. Sometimes a physical journey, sometimes a spiritual journey. And at the end of two years, the road gave me how to shape this life. I’m not walking towards uncertainty. I have a goal.
At the end of the day, everyone lives for himself. And as long as you’re happy, you can make everyone happy around you. If my mother gets used to being away from me, you can be sure yours also can do that. There is no doubt that, when you find yourself one day, when you love what has been bestowed to you, the people remaining around you and the ones entered your life recently will experience the joy with you.
Some people will be out of your life when you start living for yourself. Maybe you’ll get some out first. Then some will not want you in their lives anymore. If your paths are splitting out, then they never crossed anyway, just continue without even looking back. You’re already a new one, and they can’t understand you, nor you understand them anymore. Be sure you will gain many beautiful hearts from all over the world. You live your life for yourself. It’s not your responsibility to make someone else happy. Live for yourself! There’s no more important purpose than self-discovery…
Last Word: Reproach
I want to say this as a last word. You’re going to like the people you meet on the way, because they won’t question or judge you. They don’t know your past and don’t expect anything from you. On the way home – if you return – (or maybe even on the road), you will be judged by those (most of them) who know your ex version. Most of all would prefer to be a shackle instead of supporting you. Don’t worry about that! The caterpillar has already turned into a butterfly. There’s no turning back. You’re not the same. They’re the same, and your eccentricity disturbs them. I’m sorry, I might be reproaching some of my friends and family here. But when I asked for help, or when I hug them with my emotions the same as I used to have for them, I unfortunately had such reactions. I received material and moral support from people who barely knew or even didn’t know me, and some of my closest ones even did not move their hair. They could say ‘she chose this’, they are comfortable. Yes, I chose and I have changed for this reason. If you want to punish me for choosing a different lifestyle, don’t stop. Most of you haven’t stopped.
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